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It's more important than that little black dress, or the fabulous shoes, in fact they are useless without it!
Call it Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, whatever it is, it's the one and only accessory you need in your wardrobe.
Whether your starting a new career, finding a new relationship, setting up a business, the difference between success and failure all rests upon how much of this stuff you can muster up.
I personally don't agree with Tina Fey that it's 90% delusion, that may be true in the entertainment world, but if you think about the celebs that have longevity, they need authenticity to survive. Anyone can learn to perform, but only the artists truly comfortable in their own skin and are true to themselves find that magical connection with their audiences.
It's the same for the normal plebs like us, we need to be totally comfortable with ourselves, and what that really means is " not giving a !!!! what anyone else thinks"
I'm sure there are many ways to get there,therapists couches spring to mind, and I do know many people that could do with a few sessions, but there is a way to fast-tract the process yourself, and it doesn't cost a cent.
"Acceptance", take a bloody hard look at yourself, draw up a Balance Sheet if you like, with all your assets and liabilities. i'm not talking financial here, physical yes, because we all know as women, be it right or wrong, we are judged by physical attributes. But more importantly, your personality characteristics.
Be brutal ,even negative remarks someone has said about you in the past may have some element of truth, so examine it, and if it's true then write it down. Remember though, people say negative comments to mask their own insecurities, so you need to have a good look at who is saying it and why.
Same goes with positive remarks, all too often we brush them off, but take a good look at them as well. Of course, if someone is trying to sell you a dress for instance, and they tell you what a great figure you have, take the compliment. Salespeople are taught to find nice things about a person to comment on. Best to look at the compliments your family and friends say to you, they know you really well and you trust their opinions, right? Haha, ok sometimes they lie to make us feel good, but usually not too much.
When thats all said and done, pick up the traits you like, feel great about them, show them off, especially if they are talents, you never know you might find a new business venture, or even a new partner!
And as for the negative traits, and this is the MOST IMPORTANT, accept the ones that you can live with and can't change, and then move on to doing something about the ones you can and want to change.
Just being aware of your negative traits can be empowering, just think no-one will ever be able to insult or put you down again....... you can just smile at them and say "yes, I know" Recently someone told me I was fat and old, I know not nice, but in fairness I did say something not nice to him first, but anyway I just smiled and said "yes, I know" End of story, he had no where to go after that......
I maybe old to some, and I maybe fat to some, but I'm not about to go and have a face lift and drop kilos just because some bozo said it.